Please prepare yourself, because I am GIDDY.
Down time and dreary days in January are some of my very favorites of the entire year, because they represent that lovely sense of carefully opening a brand new book, gently cracking the binding and preparing to dive in headfirst.
I remember learning the term tabula rasa in high school, and it always bounces around my head this time of year in a promising way:
An absence of preconceived ideas or predetermined goals; a clean slate.Literally ‘scraped tablet,’ denoting a tablet with the writing erased.
However, I don’t know about you but I am T I R E D of new year’s resolutions. They seem silly and unrealistic, like a promise never intended to be kept.
No matter how much we try to make them concrete, quantifiable and achievable, here’s the truth:
Around 80% of New Year’s resolutions fail by the second week in February.
(That’s according to U.S. News a couple of years ago… and I’m betting the number is even higher.)
So: here’s a spin on making promises to yourself you might actually keep.
One of my very favorite authors (Gretchen Rubin, of The Happiness Project) has a podcast along with her sister called Happier (it’s on my must-listen podcast list – bonus, a new podcast for the new year!)
They recently discussed an idea that feels just right for those seeking a new way to tackle the new year. The concept is simple: make a list of 19 things to tackle in 2019.
I love the idea behind #19For2019 because it gives a lot of grace to try things, experiment and tackle both the meaningful and the mundane.
Bonus: it’s as effective to kick it off on January 20 as March 15 or September 1!
My one bit of additional advice? Keep yourself in check.
For example, I’d love to eat dinner at the dinner table with my family at least three nights a week, but I know that life can get in the way.
So rather than “eat dinner at the dinner table three nights a week” (which I would most certainly fail at by February 1), I went with: eat 100 meals at the dinner table together. That’s about twice a week, but all will not be lost if we miss a week (or three)!
I think the secret is in the law of averages rather than lofty goals.
I’ll be substituting round numbers for daily, weekly or monthly goals (which seem destined to fail).
So instead of: read one book a month —> read 12 books. Rather than: walk 12,000 steps a day —> exceed 70,000 steps a week.
And scratch: do yoga 5 days a week —> complete 40 hours of yoga. That’s about 20 minutes twice a week… and I would feel really proud of the equivalent of one work week of yoga per year!
So what do you think? Up your alley?
Why not – you’ve got a blank slate!
My girls and I are trying this, and we’d love to hear your thoughts (and see your lists)!
Need a little more inspiration?
Hop on over to Happier Podcast Episode 199 to hear more about the concept as well as successes and failures from Gretchen and Elizabeth plus ideas from their podcast listeners.
Head over to Instagram and follow the #19For2019 hashtag
Creep my list (and share yours)! Make it pretty, make it practical – whatever floats your boat.
Here’s to 2019!
I totally creeped your list!
Haha – excellent! It was a fun list. You should see Ainsley’s! 😘
Donna Feyen says
Love the list! gave me some ideas for mine.